Um… how old are we?!!
Are we really going to talk about…
…. Look, this is making me uncomfortable.
I don’t even wanna THINK about him and…
Seriously? THIS is how we respond to a situation like this? NO WONDER people are all on-board with secretive contracts and hush money! “But he said the P-word.” No shit?? Wow. A racist old fart said the p-word.
I watch a morning talk show program called “Coffee Joe and the Brew Crew”, I’m not sure if anyone else sees it, but one of the regulars, Donny Deutsch, asked host Mika Brzezinski about sexual abuse in the work place. “Where do we draw the line? Can co-workers still go out for dinner and drinks in a work setting? etc…” and the questioning was, at first, met with anger.
We should ALWAYS hear accusations IMPARTIALLY. EVEREYONE has a right to be HEARD. FEAR and INTIMIDATION should not silence anyone. Ever. And Donny’s point brought me to a couple realizations.
1.) THE SILENCE HAS MIS-INFORMED THE PUBLIC AT-LARGE.
Because of the silence, on all sides for all the various reasons, most people… being a male I will refer to the male descriptors in this, only because I am one… most men are not aware the EXTENT of sexual abuse and sexual manipulation that occurs daily. As I have become aware of it, I realize MANY things I believed were good-hearted or crude humor, were giving COVER to SEXUAL PREDATORS. Giving cover to acts that, if I had been aware of them, I would have pushed to get LAW ENFORCEMENT involved.
When I realized this, I stopped and asked myself “What have I done? Have I done SOMETHING? Who have I hurt?”
No one is perfect. Some of us, when we look back 20 or 30 years, we were kids! Silence has led to misunderstanding and damaged souls countless times. I hope that just the ACT of asking this question, and discussing it with someone you care about, shows where your heart is, and helps answer that question. And those discussions WILL involve topics that will bring me to the next point…
2.) IT IS THE LAW. WE FOLLOW THE LAW, OR WE CHANGE THE LAW.
The law is written to present a CLEAR DEFINITION of what is LEAGAL and what is NOT. When you feel the law has been broken, you should be heard OPENLY and HONESTLY and EVERYONE should PROTECT AND SUPPORT that right. Those who OPPOSE THIS are aiding in a CRIME punishable BY LAW. Equal justice UNDER LAW. And acting as if we are a bunch of elementary school children will NOT SOLVE THIS ISSUE! If we are to open up this horrid, stagnant, backwater to start fresh, level, and anew… It WILL involve talking about subjects that are NOT what we have been led to believe. They are NOT taboo and off-limits… WE ARE ALL EFFECTED BY THEM.
My kids’ favorite book for a while was titled “EVERYONE POOPS”, and yes, it is a work of PURE FICTION! I know only HALF the population seems to do it, for some reason… If it were true, I would seriously, need to SHAVE MY PALMS or get a seeing eye dog. Because you know what they say about guys with BIG FEET, right…. HUGE SHOES. And this one time, The President of the United States had sex with a CRITICALLY ACCLAIMED ACTRESS, DIRECTOR, AND SCREENWRITER.
BUT, because we can’t say ‘porn’ without someone cracking a smile on NATIONAL TV, we will never get to the part where the AWARD WINNING DIRECTOR and SCREENWRITER, who is an INDUCTEE IN THE HALL OF FAME, is being silenced by a BULLY and ABUSER. A CHEATER and a LIAR. A man who said he could shoot someone dead and still get elected.
To finally put to rest the issue of INEQUALITY in our society, we are going to have to have some DISTURBING conversations. We are going to have to look at things we might find off-color, or blue, maybe even something that hits a bit too close to home. But UNDERSTANDING comes from COMPASSION. The simple act of LISTENING will heal more that you know. Because it is a start. It opens the minds of people who DIDN’T EVEN KNOW they were missing something. Because if something HURTFUL is happening and I can do something to help, I wanna know.
And I am not the only person who feels that way. EVERYONE should know that, too.
Keep your head UP!!